We don’t know if it is a protective response or they are just tired of hearing it, but men pretend they are deaf or they burst out when they hear these hateful phrases.
Here are some of the most awful phrases for the men’s ears…and how can you say the same thing, but in a different way.
“We’ve got to talk.”
Usually most women keep their emotions down and wait until their patience runs over…then they explode and decide to deal with the problem straight away. It doesn’t matter why you use these words, but they really annoy men, because they make them expect something awful to happen. That is why if you want to start a serious conversation, the best option is to do it when you are making something together with your husband (having dinner, watching TV, laying). Just paraphrase your sentence to make him comfortable.
“I am so fat.”
Here is the problem: He hates it when you say you are fat, because he likes your body the way it is and he accepts every change as a natural process. If he starts complaining about his tummy and his bad shape, you won’t like it, will you? There are for sure plenty of other reasons to love him. It is the same for him. And if he happens to agree with you sometime, it will probably be because of the fact that instead of complaining, you could start training and working on it.
“You don’t do this anymore.”
Researches show that women are more emotional, but men are more sensitive. This means that if you tell him that he is wrong and that he is acting unreasonable, he will probably shut to himself or he might just respond aggressive to you. If, for example you tell him that he isn’t so nice lately and he doesn’t do any nice things for you, you practically tell him that you are unappreciated.
More effective way of expressing your complaints and accusations is to do it by using a particular reason for an excuse. For example, “I know that you don’t remember any dates, but the fact that you forgot about our anniversary makes me feel that you accept our relationship for granted.”
“When do you think you will be ready to become a father?”
This question is almost the same as “When will we get married?” Family and fatherhood are both a serious step which shouldn’t be taken in an irresponsible way. Men realize that. In both cases they will feel pressed against the wall, because the initiative is yours. And it is very likely that they hurt your feeling if you ask them something like that.
This is why, if you feel that your biological clock is tic-tacking, while your partner keeps putting off this important step, you should have an honest conversation with him. Tell him about your worries, concerns and visions about the future. Find out what he thinks. You should better know these things now, than when it’s too late.
“Not tonight, darling”
Men hate to be rejected. They realize that they could be in the same situation, but the fact that you suppress their libido, makes them angry. The best thing you should do when you are not in the mood of having sex is telling your husband how much you love him and how much he turns you on. But after a tough day at work, you feel really exhausted and uncomfortable. Your partner should know that you are not rejecting him, but the physical contact in this particular night.
And which is the phrase that your husband hates to hear?