Every man's quest in life is, at some point, to become the most charming version of himself. Whether you were born being told you were suave or grew up thinking you were a huge nerd, being charming is something that everyone can do. However, if you’re like me and need a little kick-start, I’ve compiled 6 easy steps to instantly become more charming. Follow these to start your journey to being the most dapper and refined version of yourself.
1. Stop Trying To Be Charming
Yes, the first step to being charming is to stop trying to be charming. The more you overthink your smooth moves the more they, well, look completely amateur. The biggest step to becoming your most charming self is to stop pressuring yourself to be charming. Once you stop overthinking everything, people will sense the genuineness in everything you say and do and will naturally gravitate towards you. By getting out of your head and trying to be yourself, you’ll be surprised how suave you are when you’re not trying to be something you’re not.
2. Don’t Have A “Thing”
Furthermore, don’t try to pigeonhole yourself. Don’t attempt to be the guy who always does X or Y. Instead, just go with the flow and enjoy yourself. People can always smell authenticity, so you may as well give them what they want. Without a schtick, people will stop seeing you as “that dude” and attempt to get to know you for the charming person you are.
3. Take Care Of Your Appearance
You know what is charming? A guy who takes care of himself and cares enough to present a put-together appearance to the outside world. Comb your damn hair; up your wardrobe game a little, develop a grooming routine. You might think that's shallow, but the truth is, the better you look, the better you'll feel about yourself. This causes your confidence levels to go up, and will allow for your natural charm to come through. By putting stock in your own body and appearance, you’re investing in becoming the best person you can be.
4. Don’t Be Afraid To Laugh
Charming men have one thing in common: The ability to laugh at themselves. When you’re a charming guy, you don’t care if someone takes a friendly jab at you; you let it roll off of you. One way to instantly be charming is to show everyone the great sense of humor you have and don’t be afraid to laugh.
5. Chivalry Is *Not* Dead
Despite what you may have heard, chivalry is not dead. It's all about respect. If you’re hanging out with a woman who wants to split the check, listen to her. However, don’t be afraid to open the door to a building or car for them. Even though some people will argue that it is demeaning to women, you’ll be surprised how many appreciate a man attempting to be an old-fashioned gentleman. The key here is to check for cues as to how she feels about the the issue. If she says she's into it, then go for it.
6. Actually Listen When Someone Talks
And it all comes full circle! By not trying to impress people, this is a step that will come naturally. When you actually listen to what someone is saying to you instead of constantly wondering what charming thing you’re going to reply with, the genuine connection you’ll feel is astounding. By being attentive to someone else’s hopes, dreams, and needs, you’re being the most charming person you could be.